Welcome to Mind of Steel

A place to understand your own psychology and become stronger

Hey, there. My name is Phil Janecic.

I am a writer, blogger, and author. But to tell you the truth, I hate calling myself these things. They make me sound more important and influential than I actually am.

Instead, think of me as a guy who spreads ideas. 

More specifically, ideas about how to build mental strength, become more social, and make better decisions. At the risk of sounding like a hipster who hates whatever’s popular, my ideas often go directly against what is spread throughout the self-help industry.

Truth hurts. Reality is painful and uncomfortable. Learning to deal with your shit is more important than protecting your feelings all the time. Most of self-help chooses to ignore this.

If you give me 5 minutes of your time, you will understand why this is important.

Part One

The Story of Phil

I grew up in a small town near Zagreb, Croatia. That’s in Europe, for those of you who didn’t pay attention in geography class.

Most of my childhood and teen years were “normal”. I wanted to be liked, respected, and accepted. Instead, I was that weird guy who would draw cartoons in the back of the class, talk about things nobody cared about, and look creepy in social gatherings.

As you can expect, this made me feel pretty miserable. Here I was, just as “normal” as everybody else, yet I hated almost every aspect of my life. I was weak. I was insecure. I didn’t date. I had shitty friends. I got hurt easily.

In other words, I had a weak mindset.

Deciding to Change

Around the time I turned 18 and finished high school, I decided that enough is enough. I had officially hit rock bottom and realized it. Not only that, I realized that I had the power to change every aspect of myself, by myself. Only I didn’t know how.

So I did what you probably did — I started googling things.

This led me down the rabbit hole of self-help gurus, pickup artists, and clueless bloggers. I read books, courses, articles, tried out every method I could find. I kept this up for a year and a half. Despite experiencing a few wins here and there, I was still the same person.

Insecure. Unsocial. Weak. And I still hated that person.

So after a year and half of these antics, I decided to go back to the beginning and de-brainwash myself. I figure out that the reason I was still struggling with the same issues wasn’t that I was lacking new solutions — I was addressing the wrong problems.

The Most Important Realization

Think of yourself when you are sick. You have a runny nose, scratchy throat, and feel physically weak. And yea, you will blow your nose, drink tea, and try to sleep, but you are aware that those are just symptoms of a larger problem.

To make the symptoms go away for good, you need to deal with the disease causing them.

We know this is true for physical problems. But we often forget it when it comes to psychological or emotional problems we face. Instead, we keep trying to find new remedies for the same symptoms, without dealing with the underlying cause. As a result, those symptoms never go away.

Realizing this was a “eureka” moment for me. From that point on, I shifted my entire approach towards self-improvement. Instead of searching for clickbait solutions offering “10 tips” and “quick methods”, I focused on understanding our own psychology.

How do we think? Why do we think that way? How can we change that? Soon enough, I was able to use this new approach to completely transform every aspect of my entire personality and finally become the person I always wanted to be.

The Change

Most of my transformation was focused on trial-and-error, figuring things out for myself, and trying out different methods to see what works and what doesn’t. But once I nailed down the formula and adjusted my mindset, I achieved more in 2 months than I did in the previous 2 years.

It’s like everything snapped in place. Once I decided to let go of unhealthy ways of looking at things, I could replace them with better ideas. When I realized some people in my life were toxic, I could replace them with people who support me and help me grow.

This, in turn, built my own confidence that I could change my life. With increased confidence came increased happiness. Suddenly, meeting new people didn’t seem complicated. Facing my fears was something I chose to do. Instead of seeing a world full of problems, I saw a world full of opportunities.

I’m not going to lie. It wasn’t easy. And it still took a lot of time and effort to change. But if I knew then what I know now, it wouldn’t take me as long.

With a new mindset, I became a completely new person.

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Part TWO

What is Mind of Steel?

Mind of Steel is a way of looking at the world. Simply put, it’s a mindset focused on taking what life throws at you and turning it into an advantage.

  • Everyone experiences hardships. Not everybody is prepared.
  • Aim to achieve the best. Prepare for the worst.
  • Your emotions change. Rely on logic instead.

With my musings, I try to answer: “How do we think? How can we improve our thinking and become stronger?”

To find answers, I rely on concepts from a variety of fields, including psychology, behavioral science, philosophy, and sociology. Plus my own experience in self-improvement and coaching other people.

What makes it different

As previously mentioned, many of my concepts go directly against the popular self-help mantra. The reason is that the self-help industry is in the business of selling happiness. Or, at least, the illusion of happiness.

Buy this book and you will be happy. Take this course and you will develop beast confidence. Attend my seminar and you will never feel sad again.

It’s bullshit. Not all of it, but most of it. It’s bullshit because instead of teaching you how to accept and overcome your issues, it teaches you to negate them, as if they don’t exist. I mean, you’ve been down that road already, same as me. 

Did it help? Do you always feel confident? Are you never unsatisfied?

Of course, not. It’s impossible to always be happy. It’s impossible to use a “mental trick” for confidence, as confidence comes from embracing struggles. It is only by accepting the harsh truth that you can finally be content in life.

  • Happiness, like all emotions, comes and goes.
  • Confidence is developed through action, not analyzing.
  • Self-esteem is what you think of yourself; nothing more, nothing less.

I’m not claiming I have all the answers. That would make me the same as everybody else. Instead, I am aware of my own shortcomings and know that I’m probably wrong about some things. That’s why I try to improve each day, so I can be a little less wrong.

If you’re interested, you can find a detailed Mind of Steel manifesto here.

Brief History of This Site

I started Mind of Steel (themindofsteel.com) in 2014 to provide quality self-improvement advice based on real psychological research and personal experience. Since then, I have reached over a quarter of a million people from all over the world.

2014 – Launched the site and published my first article. Almost nobody read it.

2015 – Started my newsletter and kept writing free weekly articles (join newsletter). People seemed to like what I was writing so I wrote more.

2016 – Worked on the site while holding down a 9-5. Barely wrote and spent 3h answering “help me” emails every day. Figured people wanted to hear my advice.

2017 – Quit my job to focus exclusively on Mind of Steel. Spent 8 months redesigning the site and not doing much else. Turned out to be a big waste of time, so I decided to write a book instead.

2018 – Published my first book, which is currently discontinued. Made some money, but not a lot. Wrote the Mind of Steel Handbook for myself and decided to publish it. Turns out, people needed it as much as I did.

2019 – Decided to reorient myself and create guides for helping people through the same issues I used to deal with. Since being social was my biggest problem, I decided to write The Social Gladiator.

Part Three

Start Your Own Journey

Thanks for the interest in the story behind this site.

But both of us know that it’s not the real reason you’re there. No, the reason you’re reading this right now is because you want to see if Mind of Steel can help you. You have your own problems you are trying to solve.

In fact, I bet that your current biggest problem falls into one of these categories:

  1. Anxiety (overthinking or intrusive thoughts)
  2. Being social (feeling shy, insecure, and introverted)
  3. Productivity (procrastination, discipline, focus, learning)
  4. Life purpose (finding meaning or passion, taking risks, stuck at a job you hate)
  5. Relationships (problems with friends, family, or romantic relationships)
You are not alone in this. But you alone have to make the decision to change. Below you can find some useful ways to get started and change your mindset.

Where to start

Free ebook – The starting guide that will teach you the basics of making changes in your life and leaving your comfort zone.

Articles – This is the complete collection of every article I have published on the site. They’re categorized in multiple ways, so you can easily find what you’re looking for.

Books – If you’re looking for top-to-bottom solutions that deal with a specific issue in-depth, consider picking up one of these books.

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