Tell me if this sounds familiar.
There’s nothing you want more than to meet new people, have better friends, and date more. But when you try to go out and socialize, you feel so anxious you’d rather just crawl back in your bed and hide from the world.
The Social Gladiator teaches you how to actually enjoy being social. Instead of masking your fears, you will learn how to face them and overcome them once and for all.
You look around you and see your friends and peers talking, mingling, dating without a problem. You think to yourself: “They make it seem so easy? Why can’t I be the same?” Instead, being social is hell for you.
Most socializing tactics focus on simply hyping yourself up, forcing yourself to be confident (as if that makes sense), or even worse, using pickup lines or straight up lying to people. What all of this does is simply put more pressure on you and makes talking to people even harder.
This book does things differently. Instead of saying “do this”, it helps you get to the bottom of your issues. Why are you anxious in the first place? How can you overcome that anxiety? Once you do that, you don’t need lines or tactics. You can relax and simply be yourself.
Hey, there. My name is Phil Janecic.
I am a writer, blogger, and author. But to tell you the truth, I hate calling myself these things. They make me sound more important and influential than I actually am.
Basically, I am you. Well, I was you, for a long time.
I’m someone who’s been in your shoes. All of the issues the book talks about, I’ve been through them personally. Fear of parties. Social anxiety. Being weird and embarassing yourself.
For a while, I would go to a nightclub alone, every single weekend, and be there for 5-6 hours trying to talk to someone. Then go home dejected because I failed every single time.
Nowadays, being social is fun for me. I love meeting new people. I have no problem dealing with rejection or embarassment. A lot of that is attributed to my self-growth and increased self-esteem. That’s exactly what I want to teach you with this book.
This probably isn’t the first book on social skills or meeting people you’ve come across. You worry it’s going to give you the same old tactics and empty solutions. You couldn’t be more wrong.
The Social Gladiator Policy: NO BULLSHIT
This means no empty motivation (“just go out and do it”), no fake science (“if you’re not alpha, you’re beta”) and no ridiculous methods (“dress like a clown so you have something to talk about”). Instead, the book focuses on understanding what drives people and using that knowledge to overcome your issues and open yourself up. At the same time, it’s simple to follow and implement.